Professionals often struggle with putting a former employer in the rearview mirror. Their focus is on the past – how they were treated and how they reacted. I was that person once. The economy caused the company to cut back employees, and I was among the people they cut. After my layoff, I experienced the Stages of Grief – Fear that I would not find a new position, Anger that I was the one laid off, Depression for a little while, Denial that it was my fault (didn’t matter), and finally, I reached Acceptance of my job loss and began working hard to network for my next job.

It is natural – and expected – to experience these feelings when you have lost your job or decided it is time to leave your current employer for any number of legitimate reasons.

How Do I Work My Way Through These Feelings?

Put your former job and employer in your rearview mirror. The sooner that you can focus forward to your next position, the faster you will identify a new position and accept an offer for a New Career. Surprisingly, it is that easy. Not surprisingly, it is sometimes difficult to work through your feelings.

What Is The Best Way To Work Through These Feelings?

Would you agree that these feelings are counterproductive when searching for a new career? Of course, they are!

The best method to change an attitude from negative thoughts to positive thoughts is to begin doing the work that takes you in your direction forward. Then the importance of those feelings lessens, and the excitement of moving forward kicks in!

In my coaching, I suggest that my client lists every Skill, Attribute, and Experience that are their strengths. Then place an asterisk next to the skills, attributes, and experience they do well and enjoy doing (better to focus on jobs you enjoy, correct?). Then create stories that demonstrate your expertise with those skills, attributes, and experience. This is a great first step to distance yourself from those negative feelings.

Now your focus is on the future.  What Careers offer what I like to do? We all have to perform some tasks that we would prefer not to do. It is more fun to find that right, new position that enables us to work where we enjoy working!  Go after that job!  You Got This!

You Determine Your Fate With YOUR Attitudes And Actions

Do you feel the POWER you have within you in your search for a new Career? You have total control of your actions and your attitude. Do not give that Power to a naysayer. Act Confident and Optimistic while you execute your Career Search Strategy. Reach For YOUR Moon – your ideal new position in your ideal employer!

 Networking is the best practice to find a new career!  I wrote my books to duplicate my efforts to assist you in your search. My expert experience as both a Recruiter and Career Coach gives me a perspective few professionals have. My Salary Negotiation script solves that pain point for most career seekers. To accelerate your #Jobsearch, please immediately click on this link to my recent book, Employee 5.0: Secrets Of A Successful Job Search In The New World Order  My book contains the 12 Steps to find a new career in a nice, orderly fashion that follows your sales process.  According to a newspaper review, “It is refreshing to find an author who speaks With you and not At you!” It also has the stories of people who did well – and some who did not. You may learn from both sides.

If you feel the need for professional Career Coaching, my business has 3 different packages. I work closely with Professionals in all three packages. The primary difference is the time and personal requirements.

  1. The first package is the 2 meetings Introductory Package.  The 2 meetings cover the basics of a Career Search.
  2. The second package is the 6 month Gold Package. This package provides you with Career Search guidance and Career Coaching for your first months in your new position.
  3. The third package is the Titanium package. Call me for details on this package because it is tailored specifically for the individual.

My Talent Attraction business model is to work with one company at a time and charge a flat monthly fee.  This enables me to become part of a company’s team for short or long periods.  Therefore, I know what is going on behind the curtain that candidates and authors outside of my field cannot see.

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Coming Soon, my third book on Finding A New CareerExpect Success!  The Science Of The Over 50 Career Search!  If you would like to buy a copy before its release, contact me at The first copies will be available in early July.

Bill Humbert is available for Speaking, Talent Attraction Consulting, Career Transition Consulting, and Training contracts.  435-714-4425

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